The Secret Lives of Just About Everybody:
"'In a very deep sense, you don't have a self unless you have a secret, "
Interesting article about secrets. According to the author, we all have them and we all keep them. Even from our spouses or most trusted confidants. I'm inclined to agree. I think most people have some aspect of themselves they're afraid to reveal to anyone lest they be seen as a lunatic or a pervert. There has been a noticable trend in the last 20 years for people to air all the things that, in the past, would have been regarded as secrets if not simply private. Emotions were private things and not readily displayed in public. This held true for grief (think Jackie O or the British Royals pre-Diana's death), love and the possible lone exception, happiness.
Some of the erosion on that front is good thing. People are less likely to hide things that were considered shameful that are not (mentally ill or physically disabled family members). We have, however, gone too far. I'm simply amazed at the things people discuss in public and with total strangers. Medical problems? Check. Sex? Of course. Marital problems? Yes. There are few things that even surprise me anymore.
This is a stupid post. Read it quickly as it will probably be gone in short order.
"'In a very deep sense, you don't have a self unless you have a secret, "
Interesting article about secrets. According to the author, we all have them and we all keep them. Even from our spouses or most trusted confidants. I'm inclined to agree. I think most people have some aspect of themselves they're afraid to reveal to anyone lest they be seen as a lunatic or a pervert. There has been a noticable trend in the last 20 years for people to air all the things that, in the past, would have been regarded as secrets if not simply private. Emotions were private things and not readily displayed in public. This held true for grief (think Jackie O or the British Royals pre-Diana's death), love and the possible lone exception, happiness.
Some of the erosion on that front is good thing. People are less likely to hide things that were considered shameful that are not (mentally ill or physically disabled family members). We have, however, gone too far. I'm simply amazed at the things people discuss in public and with total strangers. Medical problems? Check. Sex? Of course. Marital problems? Yes. There are few things that even surprise me anymore.
This is a stupid post. Read it quickly as it will probably be gone in short order.
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